A gambler’s descent into hell and back … one day at a time.
Eons ago it seems that I penned that subhead for my blog’s title. Oh the days and nights and dollars that have passed away since that time.
I went back out. After some three years clean of gambling. The reason is pretty simple actually. The facilitator of my local GA group did something that was wrong, unfair, out of keeping with GA practice and the needs of recovery.
I had to quit going. And the longer I stayed “quitted,” well, the more vulnerable I became to returning to the slots. My sole poison in the universe of gambling options. That two casinos are but a 10-15 minute drive away … oh the temptations right in my face.
I could talk about triggers — but am not going to.
Could talk the rage I felt/feel toward that meeting facilitator for so fucking up that I no longer felt safe going to GA.
I could talk about the many things that have occurred since I stopped going (had to stop going) just over a year ago.
I could talk of the HUGE amount of money I’ve lost to the slots. The damage I’ve done to my finances and my self.
What I most need to talk about is my utter passion for gambling — precisely, only the slots.
That, combined with the lack of support via the facilitator that so turned things ’round for me (in a bad way): a perfect mockup for going back out.
I love to gamble. Love it. It is hand’s down the very best drug! Escape. Distraction. Salve for unbearable emotions and grief. Nothing but nothing, save for sleep, quiets the RAGE and anguish and LONELINESS that are my life like the slots.
Nothing.
No one is here. I am so alone. Isolated. Slots are my friend. Gambling is my comfort. I loved gambling even before I became an ardent addict.
Therein lies the problem. What the fuck do I replace gambling with?!?
There is nothing that CAN replace it. That’s the cruel joke, the knife in the side. Nothing substitutes for or replaces the thrills … excitement … risk … sheer visceral pleasure of gambling and slots.
Even when I’m losing, I’m happy … just to be in the game. Excited: just to be spinning the wheels one more time.
NOTHING else in my life replicates or comes close.
I could write that it’s time to commit to recovery — solo, unfortunately. Much harder to do it alone than with a GA group. Compared to a dysfunctional GA group, however, better to do it solo.
I wish I never had to stop gambling. Wish I push the SPIN buttons and enjoy the bonus rounds and bells and whistles and close calls but no cigars for the rest of my life.
However, gambling is my shovel into destitution, possibly an early grave.
So question becomes:
How much do I REALLY want to live.
Or perish – and at what cost.
What value is my life, really?
I do not know. I can’t say what value my life holds. And that is why gambling is so easy. So riveting. When my life holds no value, when I have no value, gambling is the most fun way to go hastily to my end.
My reflections this Christmas Day … celebrating these some 12 hours of not placing a bet.