A whiff of memory is all it takes or a passing gust of anticipation to invoke an appetite for gambling — in as little as 48 hours after a (destructive) bender.
Is there any other kind?
Amnesia is a marvelous phenomenon. It helps us forget temporarily horrible actions we inflict upon ourselves as gamblers.
It enables us to way way overspend, to forgo families, friends, sleep, nutrition, jobs, responsibilities, creative time, rest and more for another shot at playing.
Amnesia? Or denial? One in the same for gamblers.
Two days ago I went on a binge. What made this one destructive wasn’t the amount of my withdrawals, comparatively, rather the tidy sums in jackpots that I gave back to the casino: Because I wanted to keep playing rather than listen to the voice of reason that told me to leave while I was really ahead and think of all the good that money could do, like pay for imminent car repairs or rent.
Gambling is eviscerating to the self.
Then, the bloody sliced-up flesh sloooooowly starts sealing, scabbing and scarring itself with time.
Even the briefest passage of time is all it sometimes take for the demented gambler to return to the scene of the crime.
Earlier today I was tidying up my studio, doing laundry — task-y stuff that I really love.
Out of nowhere blasted this rush of desire to be at the slots anticipating … optimistic … the old crap from just 2 days ago behind me and “forgotten” … spinning wheels and betting big because the bigger the bet, the greater the rush.
That blast of desire didn’t include Big Winnings or dollar amounts, be they in wins or losses.
Rather, there was this rush of anticipation like a kid feels around Christmas. Completely outta nowhere, while doing housework!
A whiff of memory — of the casino environment, favorite slots, perpetual night, a womb of sensual pleasures, decadence and excitements … a gust of anticipation can be all it takes to compel me back to the casino … in as little as 48 hours after a bender that wrought self-punishment, loathing, hatred, frustrations, almighty unforgivenesses.
Any reasoning person would ask: Why do I do it?
There IS no reason to addiction and compulsion and relentless adherence to that which destroys. Addiction is immune to reason. That’s part of what gives addiction its unrelenting hold. Like the jaws of death, rather than Jaws of Life.
I felt that blast of desire to be at the slots, anticipation, optimism, “forgetting” the wreckage of merely 48 hours ago.
The power of denial … the power of self-induced amnesia … the power of compartmentalizing do me no good with gambling.
I didn’t act on that blast. This time. I noted it and continued with my tasks — which are inherently far more productive and positive than a 15-minute drive to a casino would be!
Dealing with urges is part of recovery. “Recovery.”
Does a gambler ever truly recover? I suspect not. One can’t remove the compulsion/addiction, only arrest it.
Shit. The price we — I — pay for being unable (or unwilling) to gamble within reason and temperance. “Recovery” truly is an All or Nothing endeavor.
Ticks me off that I pushed my passion for slots so far that I can only deprive myself entirely if I’m to live a “normal and healthy life” (ha! was never the case regardless of gambling!).
The early weaning away from slots / gambling is often the hardest part initially of “going clean.”
Anybody who thinks gambling’s not a drug is ignorant, uninformed, sadly and profoundly unaware, blind. For me, for gamblers, it’s as much a drug as cocaine snorted or meth shot into a vein. Different effects, obviously, but as real a high — and crash.
Crawling through the crash is part of recovering sanity, restoring balance, ultimately honoring and respecting the self enough to NOT engage in destructive actions.
I’m nowhere near there. Baby steps precede adult steps. Feeling that sudden urge earlier and not acting on it is baby step sufficient for now.